This week's episode of The Biggest Loser Families was a shocker for two reasons. After Brady of the blue team single handedly beat the black team at the weigh-in, a first for The Biggest Loser series, you could tell something was wrong with Phil Parham of the black team. You could see it in his eyes.

After watching his wife Amy get eliminated from the show the week before, Phil didn't take the loss well in the days prior to the next challenge. With his 20th wedding anniversary only days away, Phil's heart was at home with his wife and kids and not in the game. When the time came to send someone home, the remaining members of the black team - Renee, Michelle, and Coleen - knew it was best to eliminate Phil so he could be with his family.

The next morning we hopped on the phone will Phil to find out what he took away from The Biggest Loser Families. What we learned is that family really is the most important thing in life and that Phil Parham is one of the nicest guys you could ever spend ten minutes with.

THE DEADBOLT: You look great in the before and after shots.

PHIL PARHAM: Hey, thanks. I look better now.

THE DEADBOLT: Were you sort of glad your team got crushed at the weigh-in so you could go home?

PHIL: I kind of started to get that way a little bit. I hate to - it's against everything in me to admit that, "Hey, I'm kind of glad I can go home." But, you know, it was a long time up to that point for me, I felt like, and without the support of my wife, with me feeling like I was on an island and isolated, I can say with all honesty that that week was that tough for me that I kind of felt like in that moment, "Hey, shoot, I'm glad I'm out of here."

But really, about the week before, I had started to own this thing and I felt like whatever happened to me, good or bad, I was going to be cool with it. Then again, if I had another day or two, or another hour or two, I might have had a different - If I had been able to talk to my wife - I think Michelle talked to her dad, you know - I could have probably had just what I needed to go on.

THE DEADBOLT: What did Amy say about how you were feeling when you got back? Did she say you should have stayed?

PHIL: Oh, she was mad as hell. [laughs] She was so mad at me. Yeah, she was mad. She's a type "A" personality and she's completely driven, going all the time, got her goals, and it didn't work out for her the week before. But when I was there, I was like, "Hey, it's your husband, I'm here." And she was like, "Why are you here? You're not supposed to be here." She had her moment and then she was excited to see me because it was our 20th anniversary. So, you know, a lot of mixed emotions in the whole deal. This thing is full of emotion. It's hard to explain, but it is.

THE DEADBOLT: How hard is the psychological aspect of the game on top of trying to losing weight?

PHIL: Well, you're always just kind of on the edge because you don't know who's really for you or against you and you really hope that your trainer is for you, you know. I went over to a new team and you hear people saying things nice to your face, and they really like you as a person, but do they want you to be in the game with them as a player? So it's a lot of mixed things.

I really got a real old school education on being on a reality show and I'll just say that I can relate to people - I watch them a lot differently on television now - and if I ever did one again, I probably would do a lot of things differently. I wouldn't go into them with the same mindset, because I would realize things can come at you from all over the place and you can keep some of the things to yourself and you've got to be a little bit better of a poker poker player sometimes.

THE DEADBOLT: What's the one moment in the show where you can point to and say, "Ah, that's where it all changed for me."?

PHIL: You didn't see this in the show, but I should have done a lot more game playing from week one, because Brady and Vicky were already aligned with people from week one and they had already kind of singled me and Amy, and Adam and Stacey, out for elimination from the start. I should have realized that that alliance was there a lot quicker and done things to ward against it. Just to play the game a little bit differently, because they were playing before they ever arrived on the campus. So I felt like a lot of forces were against us and if we weren't always near the top, or right at the top, we were kind of doomed at some point. We didn't have those alliances in place.

I don't know if it's any one event, it was an accumulation of two or three pinnacle moments. You know, getting mad at Heba, and her and I having an argument at the Grand Canyon, she sort of turned against me, and that sort of snowballed into this other kind of stuff. Just whatever happened with Vicky I still don't know to this day, but I think she just turns her radar on somebody and kind of tries to blow them up individually.